Experiencing a rupture is a real obstacle course, there are stages to be taken, water to flow under the bridges, awareness, and perspective. If we want to move forward.
But quite often you can find yourself in a form of complacency in the unhappiness of your newfound loneliness. To regret the loved one, it allows you somewhere to comfort you in your past happiness without drawing the right lessons from it.
You are devastated by a breakup. Two hypotheses:
You have experienced passionate, pure, deep love. The feeling of emptiness is therefore unbearable, almost like mourning to be managed. You then go through devastation, weaning, internalization, denial, acceptance, often in an order that does not prove to be pre-established, depending on the personalities, the types of relationship, your ability to live the ‘event. The road is long and strewn with pitfalls, but you will get over it because you give yourself the means to get out of it, to go beyond the physical pain felt by the loss of the loved one. Perhaps you will say to yourself that you will never live such beautiful relationships, that you will never dare to confide again in the one who will share your life again. May all the beautiful things that you have experienced together belong only to the history of your relationship and that you will never be able to experience them with another. This is perfectly normal, but tell yourself that it is a decoy. You will build other relationships, not more beautiful, different, that the evolution that your breakup made you go through will allow you to find someone with whom the baggage of your past, which is heavier, will prove to be less complicated to carry. It is also important to be able to talk about the breakup, in order to make it a stage in your life and not the unbeatable and ultimate suffering of your existence. Your new love will also feel touched by these confidences, invested in your well-being. And instead of making it a source of taboo, conflict and long-term jealousy, talking about it will give you the great opportunity to make yourself understood by the other. Talking about it allows above all, by the explanation that you will make of it and by the perception of the other, that you will want to bring on the comprehension of the story, to make of that something to understand, to analyze. Thereby.
It is sometimes easy and certainly unconscious to take pleasure in the disarray unfortunately brought about by the loss of love. A form of attachment to abandonment, to the sadness caused by the breakup. In this case, not only do you not mourn the lost man but only the relationship.. It is in this that we cannot speak of love strictly speaking. but no longer a kind of ego, here destroyed because injured. During the relationship, you were certainly not aware of this illusory love. This is also why your reaction to the breakup is strong. You may be starting to understand that it is indeed the loss of the relationship that hurts you, that hurts you, and not the loss of the person. This awareness may take a long time to come, just as it may never come. What is hard about this type of rupture is then the feeling of loneliness that is felt, different from that of the first hypothesis. Because indeed, the wound of the ego, the fallen narcissism hurts extremely because it affects the human being himself, with his faults and his weaknesses. Ask yourself the right questions. What do you lack in the other, what attracted you? But also what you would have changed in the other, in your relationship. This will allow you to perhaps clearly understand that it is indeed the loss of the relationship that is affecting you. You will have grasped the fact that you really cannot afford to miss your man. It doesn’t mean that it’s obvious, it just means that you will be able to go beyond it, that you will be perfectly able to go beyond it, to still grow. You will have grasped the fact that you really cannot afford to miss your man. It doesn’t mean that it’s obvious, it just means that you will be able to go beyond it, that you will be perfectly able to go beyond it, to still grow. You will have grasped the fact that you really cannot afford to miss your man. It doesn’t mean that it’s obvious, it just means that you will be able to go beyond it, that you will be perfectly able to go beyond it, to still grow.