Loving someone who makes you suffer: What you need to understand
How to find the bond of the beginnings in his marriage?
Over time, the couple’s relationship changes. We move away, we communicate less, we argue. Yet we still love each other … So how do you get your relationship back on track and rediscover the bond and laughter that made us fall in love?
Sometimes we stay with a person who makes us suffer. The awareness is there, but it seems impossible to change the situation. We want to leave, but we stay, because we do not have the strength, the desire or the motivation to overcome this obstacle which seems insurmountable. It is important to understand what is happening in order to have the keys to change. Because you shouldn’t love someone who makes you suffer but rather someone who makes you happy.
1.Analyze your romantic past
Take the time to analyze your romantic past: have you ever been 100% happy? I’m not talking about moments that are as fleeting as they are non-existent. I’m talking about a lasting love that made you feel happier than ever before. Often, we seek in the other what resonates in us. Someone who is lonely will look for a partner who will be similar, in the end, it will be two souls in pain who pull each other down.
It is therefore important to realize the state of your romantic situation: have you looked for a partner who pushes you upwards or who makes you dangle dreams? If you find that your past in love is far from glorious: we are going to ask ourselves why. Because loving someone who makes you suffer is not sustainable.
2.Learn to ask real questions
When we are in a relationship that hurts us we fight between our conscience and our heart. I invite you to ask yourself real questions in order to be able to move forward:
- On a scale of 1 to 10, what is my level of happiness in a relationship?
- Do I share wonderful moments with my (my) partner?
- Do I feel like I’m growing up in this relationship?
- Am I proud of my relationship?
- Do I still see myself in 5 years with this person?
- Do I feel like I’m wasting my time?
- Am I often frustrated, disappointed, sad?
If, in view of your answers, you realize that your relationship is not bringing you happiness: you will have to change!
3. Love someone who makes you suffer: What to do?
When we become aware of a situation, we always have the choice: either we stay or we leave: yes! It’s that simple. I know that you can be in a marital relationship with children and that leaving means “to take risks”: but staying is also taking the risk of “dying” in the relationship.
I know that we can stay in a relationship out of habit , but that means that we accept to abdicate a part of our soul. To stay with a person who hurts us is to say: I accept to suffer! You have to realize that the other will NEVER change : you are the only person who can change the situation.
4. To love someone who makes you suffer is not to respect yourself
You owe yourself respect. And loving someone who makes you suffer is, in a way, not respecting yourself . Life asks you only one thing: to live it! Would you like to have more regrets than happy memories at the end of your life? Time flies very quickly and one day we find ourselves at 50 years of age having the impression of having missed the essential.
Remember when you were a child and dreamed of a future made of promises. Respect this vision of yourself and go your way. Leaving a person is very difficult because you have to manage and overcome a breakup that requires exorcising all your ailments. But once the storm passes, you can finally live YOUR life.
5. Become what you always wanted to be!
Your life depends entirely on you! You are who you choose to be. You have made the decision to enter into a destructive relationship and you may decide to exit it. Your qualities, your values and your beliefs make life a full-fledged being who is able to create the life of his dreams. Become what you always wanted to be! Make the firm decision that no one will stand in your way again: go for your destiny!
There is no point in loving someone who makes you suffer! It is a waste of time that will make you regress and suffer. No one deserves to suffer: life is made to be happy at all times and in all circumstances.