Having a lover at work: what to do?
How to find the bond of the beginnings in his marriage?
Over time, the couple’s relationship changes. We move away, we communicate less, we argue. Yet we still love each other … So how do you get your relationship back on track and rediscover the bond and laughter that made us fall in love?
We spend the majority of our time with our co-workers. This time will create a special relationship combining friendship and professionalism. Little by little, we may fall in love with one another and enter into a romantic relationship. Above all and above all, having a lover at work requires unfailing discretion.
1.Have a lover at work: What do you want?
The first question to ask yourself is: what do I REALLY want?
Different cases can arise.
1 / You are single – the other is in a relationship
Will the other one leave his / her partner? How long will you put up with this situation? Do you have a problem living in hiding? There are no rules in this kind of situation, the only thing that matters is you and your well-being. If you manage to live this situation serenely, it’s perfect, otherwise: act! Either you issue an ultimatum or you decide to break up.
You are both in a relationship
In this case, I invite you to ask yourself: which relationship brings me the most happiness? We can have a “love affair” with a colleague without it being “the love of our life”. But this “double life” will not be able to continue forever, because at some point you will have to make a choice. If you delay, your partner may notice the situation! And there, it risks being the hecatomb, because you risk losing everything and finding yourself more alone than ever. There are many possible combinations, but only one solution: find your happiness!
Read also: 10 signs that your colleague is falling for you
2. Having a lover at work: It matters to make a decision
You will have to make a decision in order to know exactly what you want for your future.
1 / I stay with my colleague
In this case, you can enter into a serious relationship, but also stay in a light relationship and without the fuss. All that matters is finding a relationship that’s right for you.
2 / I am leaving my colleague
This implies being able to manage the “after”, because you will see it every day! You can avoid each other, but at some point you are going to be confronted with each other. I invite you to read our article on the breakup with a work colleague . Hence the fact that it is often not advisable to get in touch with a colleague, because it will not be a break common to all the others. You may want to quit your job because it will have become unbearable for you. So think carefully before you get in touch with a coworker.
Having a lover at work: conclusion
Having a lover at work requires being able to question yourself without which you risk leaving feathers there. Whatever happens in your life, take the time to reflect before acting, because under the influence of emotion you risk making unforgivable mistakes!